Is long distance love possible?
Can a love overcome mountains, oceans and thousand of agonizing miles? If we were to ever find our true love, our solemate, on a different continent, can it be our destiny to be together? How can the longing of two lovers hearts surpass the many, many obstacles presented by such a situation? Is true love stronger than anything put before it?
Two cultures, the highest mountains, the deepest seas and the longest miles may separate two hearts, but only time can tell if the hearts are to be together forever...
Miles and miles and miles apart.
Although so far you've touched my heart.
Your laugh, your voice, your adoring smile,
Seem to shorten every mile.
I wake every morning and rest at night,
My thoughts and dreams filled with your sight.
Oh how I wish, even for one night,
I could hold your hand and you hold mine tight.
Not just a little briused or battered,
When I think of the distance it's completely shattered.
We'll never give up or say goodbye.
Remember together, the moon in the sky.
Your heart's a part of me and mine of you.
With that alone, we shall not be blue.Is long distance love possible?
Can a love overcome mountains, oceans and thousand of agonizing miles? If we were to ever find our true love, our solemate, on a different continent, can it be our destiny to be together? How can the longing of two lovers hearts surpass the many, many obstacles presented by such a situation? Is true love stronger than anything put before it?
Two cultures, the highest mountains, the deepest seas and the longest miles may separate two hearts, but only time can tell if the hearts are to be together forever...
Miles and miles and miles apart.
Although so far you've touched my heart.
Your laugh, your voice, your adoring smile,
Seem to shorten every mile.
I wake every morning and rest at night,
My thoughts and dreams filled with your sight.
Oh how I wish, even for one night,
I could hold your hand and you hold mine tight.
Not just a little briused or battered,
When I think of the distance it's completely shattered.
We'll never give up or say goodbye.
Remember together, the moon in the sky.
Your heart's a part of me and mine of you.
With that alone, we shall not be blue.
Poem of a Long Distant Nature
How to make a long-distance relationship work
The modern world is an expensive place, where most households require two incomes to purchase even the most modest of dwellings. Couple this fact with the progress women have made in the workplace since Eisenhower was president and you’ve got a perfect cocktail for a potentially sour brew known as long-distance relationships, which are brought on by career moves that often mean a change of address.
Careers can pull anyone across the country provided the opportunity is grand enough. You’ll need to look inside yourself and be sure that you’re ready to deal with this level of commitment. If you’ve been tempted to stray while she was still living in town, chances are you’re not ready. However, if you can’t see yourself with anyone but her, there are a host of factors to consider when embarking upon long-distance relationships.
Agree on an end
Before you decide to jump headfirst into long-distance relationships, you should first agree on an end goal with your partner -- a specific time, be it six months or a year, when the separation is going to end. You can reunite, she can move home, you can follow or you can call it quits. There has to be an agreed upon goal to look forward to when you first embark upon long-distance relationships. Otherwise, you may end up stringing along the status quo indefinitely, which breeds a particularly robust strain of frustration.
Be realistic in your assessment of this relationship timetable. Make sure to leave enough time to accomplish the goals that forced the separation in the first place. Trying to rush through an experience, even for a relationship, is a good way to build up unhealthy levels of stress.
Schedule communication
The quality and quantity of communication with your woman will need to increase substantially when you embark on long-distance relationships. Be prepared for this increase in verbal Olympics. Make sure your phone bill is ready as well by switching to a new cell phone plan with unlimited long distance or make sure your landline carrier is providing the best rates. You will need to be on the same page with your girl as far as frequency goes; will you speak three times a week or once a day? If you’re not on the same page, one party will feel slighted and an insurmountable rift will begin to develop between the two of you that will make the physical distance seem minuscule.
Schedule visits
Visits act like mini-ends. A weekend together is vitally important at least once every six weeks. For all the Jetson-like qualities of video chat, there is no plug-in to replicate touch or smell -- at least not yet. And since smell is the strongest sense tied to memory, you’ll want to keep up physical relations during long-distance relationships. A trip to visit your significant other every once in a while shows her that you still care, and that she’s still very important to you no matter how far away she is.
Don’t just go and visit each other though. Instead, try to create something uniquely you. Taking mutual vacations away from your respective lives creates newness in your relationship and keeps it progressing. It’s important that your relationship continues to grow, not just maintains, despite the distance.
Raise your trust level
When living a great deal of your lives away from each other in a long distance relationship it’s natural that you develop some of your once-laudable independent tendencies. Proceed with caution, however, since she’s going to be developing the same independent instincts. Stories will begin to revolve around people you’ve never heard of and she’ll begin to take on certain characteristics you won’t recognize. Your role will change slightly as well. In a proximal relationship of this caliber, most of your free time is spent with each other.
If you were in charge of planning dates and filling free time, someone else is going to be filling that role. It’s not an attack against you, so try not to show too much jealousy. Let her know you still care and love your role in her life, but you can’t be an anchor from hundreds of miles away.
LONG-DISTANCE LOVIN'
When it comes to long-distance relationships the name of the game is prioritizing what’s important to the both of you. If it’s family or a relationship that you find occupying the top spot, great, but you’ll have to sacrifice your career a little bit. If you are both career-oriented people and can put your relationship on the back burner for a while, then a long-distance relationship may be for you. It’s all about weighing the ups and downs associated with what you want from your life.
Chaney
From The Moment We met
I Knew You'd be Someone i could never forget
We talked we laughed we made memories
There was just something about you
It seemed to good to be true
People tried to come in between us
We stayed strong and stuck by each other
We've had our up's and our down's
Our Smile's And Frown's
My Love for you just grew
My love for you is so true
You make me feel what no other has ever made me feel
It's like our love is so unreal
You're my missing puzzle piece
I've made my mistakes in life
With you everything feels so right
I Don't have a worry in the world
I feel so safe as you hold me in your arms
I love you without a doubt
I'll stick by you no matter what
Thick, thin, ice and snow
My love for you will just grow
Even tho you're moving away
You'll always be my ay bay bay
We can make it through anything
You're like my sunshine on a pitch black night
We get along so perfectly
For once i feel like i'm worth something to someone
You're the most amazing person I've ever met
Chaney You Will Be Impossible to forget
I Will always love you for you
There's nothing in this world that could make me not
Flaws and all you are my everything
I love how i can talk to you about anything
I love how you can make me smile when i wanna be pissed
I love the way you look at me it makes my heart melt
I love the way you love my son as if he were yours
I love how i can just be me around you
I love how you don't judge me for the stupid shit i do and say
You're everything i wanted and more.
I'm so lucky to be able to call you mine!
I Love You Chaney <3 Today,Tomorrow,Always <3
Written by Kelly
A very goof friend of mine, sigh hate ppl that hurt her, but she can always do better =p. Kelly its his lost, ull find other ppl that appreciates u better
How to know if you are in love? (SOUL MATES)
Soul Mates are an experience. You will find that throughout your life, you will have many, many opportunities to connect with, or link up with, those that you have had experiences with before. It may have been in other planes of existence, in other lives, or in many other ways. So yes, you could call many of these relationships soul mates.
When two people connect and have a feeling of familiarity or a sense that they are connected for some reason other than they can imagine or know with their minds, often it is because they have soul mate qualities. You can even make a new soul mate in this life if you choose. So, let us create clarity with this question of, "What is a soul mate?"
A soul mate is a person or a being that you have a connection with from a soul level. I'm defining soul connection as being of greater expression, greater desire, or greater connection than just the purpose of connecting in your physical body. Soul mates come in many expressions.
When you do connect with someone with whom you have created a soul agreement to come together--to acknowledge one another--it can be an easy experience. Or, it can be a difficult experience. It depends on what you both decide you want to co-create and why you both came together.
Sometimes soul mates come together to wake each other up. Sometimes that can be a painful experience. Sometimes soul mates come together because they have achieved great heights. They have manifested great awarenesses in previous lives and are coming together in this life to celebrate and to bring forth more light upon this planet.
You see, we also have soul-groups. I bet that you can recognize many people that are in your soul-group already. However, I get a feeling that this questioner has more personal love interests in mind.
Yes, you can connect with a person that has the qualities of a soul mate, and they can be a significant relationship in the love interest area. Yes, you can create a relationship that flows easily and effortlessly. In this relationship there may be an awareness that you perhaps have differences. There may also be a willingness to create a place to allow each other to have their individual expression without feeling that one's nature needs to react because of lack or scarcity. That will allow the relationship to flow.
You will find that when two people come together who are soul mates, they will have made an agreement to benefit each other and to help in each other's lives in some way. Through their compatibilities, you will usually find they have a spiritual connection as their primary attraction. Then it will blend on an emotional level, and then you will find the mental. The last level to be discovered between soul mates is often the physical connection. Sometimes there will be a spark placed there to create the attraction so that you may find each other again. We are in a body, yes!? Therefore, the physical cannot be left out.
Love after bereavement
Losing someone we love is one of the hardest things we have to face in life. But eventually, once we're ready, it's highly likely we'll consider the possibility of finding love again. And this can happen at any age.
In our own practice we have known men and women form new relationships well into their eighties.
Grief and romance
Although it can be exciting to find love again, thoughts of the dead partner can cast a shadow over any new romance.
Sometimes people feel guilty about wanting company and physical love.
Often they have all sorts of other unresolved emotions about the death of the partner, and the more they try to ignore them, the more they tend to surface.
Such emotions are often about loss. But they might be about anger that the person has gone, or about resentment that other people are still a couple and can look forward to an old age together.
Sometimes feelings revolve round horrible images of the last days or weeks of a partner's life. And the surviving spouse may well feel that he or she was not always patient or very loving when the other person was dying.
All of these emotions are quite normal to have, but that does not make them easy to deal with.
Stages of grief
There are generally reckoned to be about seven stages of grief:
* shock, disbelief, numbness
* denial
* panic
* anger
* guilt
* depression
* acceptance.
Most grieving people experience at least some of these stages, but there is no set order or time limit for these feelings.
It's not unusual to feel as if you've experienced several elements of these stages on one day alone.
For this reason, use these stages as a rough guide that can help you to understand sudden difficult emotions such as anger.
Recognise that these emotions are part of a process, and that others feel like this too.
When should you be ready to start a new relationship?
You may find your grieving process doesn't coincide with other people's ideas of how it should be.
Sometimes friends or family will get impatient if you're not 'over it' after six months.
At other times, you can get a strong sense that some individuals think you are hard-hearted because you appear to have got over the death quickly.
We all find our own way of dealing with death. None of us should judge anyone else about how they are coping.
But when it comes to new relationships, people are often quick to disapprove if a new romance blossoms 'too soon'.
When is too soon?
If a partner has been dying for a long time, the chances are you have done loads of grieving before he or she actually stopped breathing.
You are then more likely to feel ready for a new life than someone whose spouse dies suddenly.
In cases of lengthy terminal illness, it's not unusual for a new relationship to blossom even before the partner dies. And although this new relationship can be a great comfort, it can also be the source of deep guilt.
But there are no absolutes when it comes to people's feelings. And no two individuals are the same.
In general, society doesn't tend to condone new relationships that go public before an interval of around one year.
And certainly, new romances won't go well if a grieving person is avoiding the pain of bereavement by replacing one partner with another. Recovering from a loved-one's death is just not that easy.
Coping with other people's reactions
You have to remember that no-one knows exactly what you're suffering. And no one knows for sure what went on in your relationship with your dead partner.
So really, other people should resist commenting on any new romance you have. In reality, friends and family will have a view on it.
Hopefully, many will be pleased that you have found happiness again. But there may be jealousy from other friends who have been on their own for longer.
In-laws
Unfortunately, you may find your dead partner's family cannot come to terms with a new relationship even if years have gone by. This is because they feel their relative is being forgotten.
If that happens, try to discuss with them just how much your late partner will always be in your mind. You might also gently suggest that he or she would not want you to grieve forever.
In time, they may come round to the idea, but it is a situation that requires kindness and tact on both sides.
And while it's easy to see any criticism by your in-laws as an unnecessary obstacle to your new life, try to remember that they too have had to deal with the loss of your partner.
Don't forget that your in-laws are your children's grandparents or aunts and uncles. As such, it will be painful all round to fall out with them in a big way.
Sons and daughters
You may also have serious difficulties with your own sons and daughters.
If your children are still living at home, they will be affected by any new relationship. And they may be quite hostile because they think that Mum or Dad is being airbrushed out of history.
It can be very difficult to deal with this kind of upset because your children may still be deeply upset by their loss.
In such a situation, it's wise not to be blatant about your new love until your children are more ready to accept the idea. So don't allow your lover to stay overnight before your children have come to terms with your new romantic happiness.
If your children have left home, you won't have quite the same problems.
But even if their father or mother died several years ago, your adult offspring may react negatively when you tell them you've found love again.
And if you usually stay over when you visit, be sensitive to the fact they might feel awkward if you want your new partner to accompany you - especially if you're asking to share a bed.
This is a highly inflammatory situation for families to deal with, and the best advice anyone can give you is: take your time.
Sex in your new relationship
After a bereavement, many people decide they will never have a sexual relationship again. This is particularly likely when the death happens late in life.
But a lot of men and women find their sexual urges return after a while.
Unfortunately, this can lead to intense feelings of guilt, mainly caused by a feeling you are being unfaithful to the dead partner.
Post-bereavement sexual guilt manifests itself in three main ways.
* Worries about masturbation. After a few months on their own, quite a lot of older men and women experience a desire to masturbate. This need for relief is largely physiological: it is caused by the normal workings of the body and its hormones. It isn't something you should be ashamed about.
* Difficulties with erection. Many widowed men experience erectile dysfunction (impotence) when they try to have sex with someone else. Counselling of the couple is usually effective. Sometimes it's useful to give the man a short course of erection drugs to build confidence.
* Vaginal dryness. When a woman decides to resume sex, she often finds she can't relax. As a result, her natural lubricant doesn't flow, making sex uncomfortable. Counselling by an experienced family planning doctor will often put matters right. Also, the use of a good vaginal lubricant will help. A course of vaginal hormone may benefit post-menopausal women.
What happens if your new relationship fails?
Unfortunately, it is not uncommon for a new relationship to fail because of guilt or because you are not emotionally ready to move on.
Sometimes your new partner may walk away because he or she considers you too needy or too emotionally involved with your dead partner.
Whatever the reason for the break-up, it will probably hit you hard - and may resurrect all sorts of pain related to the death of your spouse.
If this happens, try to realise this romance was not your only chance of happiness.
It's likely you weren't really ready for a new relationship and you may need to spend time grieving for your dead partner and building up your own strength and happiness.
Spend time being single again, catch up with friends and maybe get some help for your sadness.
You will find that after a period of several months - or even a year or two - you are more ready for a social life, including romance.
Love after bereavement
Losing someone we love is one of the hardest things we have to face in life. But eventually, once we're ready, it's highly likely we'll consider the possibility of finding love again. And this can happen at any age.
In our own practice we have known men and women form new relationships well into their eighties.
Grief and romance
Although it can be exciting to find love again, thoughts of the dead partner can cast a shadow over any new romance.
Sometimes people feel guilty about wanting company and physical love.
Often they have all sorts of other unresolved emotions about the death of the partner, and the more they try to ignore them, the more they tend to surface.
Such emotions are often about loss. But they might be about anger that the person has gone, or about resentment that other people are still a couple and can look forward to an old age together.
Sometimes feelings revolve round horrible images of the last days or weeks of a partner's life. And the surviving spouse may well feel that he or she was not always patient or very loving when the other person was dying.
All of these emotions are quite normal to have, but that does not make them easy to deal with.
Stages of grief
There are generally reckoned to be about seven stages of grief:
* shock, disbelief, numbness
* denial
* panic
* anger
* guilt
* depression
* acceptance.
Most grieving people experience at least some of these stages, but there is no set order or time limit for these feelings.
It's not unusual to feel as if you've experienced several elements of these stages on one day alone.
For this reason, use these stages as a rough guide that can help you to understand sudden difficult emotions such as anger.
Recognise that these emotions are part of a process, and that others feel like this too.
When should you be ready to start a new relationship?
You may find your grieving process doesn't coincide with other people's ideas of how it should be.
Sometimes friends or family will get impatient if you're not 'over it' after six months.
At other times, you can get a strong sense that some individuals think you are hard-hearted because you appear to have got over the death quickly.
We all find our own way of dealing with death. None of us should judge anyone else about how they are coping.
But when it comes to new relationships, people are often quick to disapprove if a new romance blossoms 'too soon'.
When is too soon?
If a partner has been dying for a long time, the chances are you have done loads of grieving before he or she actually stopped breathing.
You are then more likely to feel ready for a new life than someone whose spouse dies suddenly.
In cases of lengthy terminal illness, it's not unusual for a new relationship to blossom even before the partner dies. And although this new relationship can be a great comfort, it can also be the source of deep guilt.
But there are no absolutes when it comes to people's feelings. And no two individuals are the same.
In general, society doesn't tend to condone new relationships that go public before an interval of around one year.
And certainly, new romances won't go well if a grieving person is avoiding the pain of bereavement by replacing one partner with another. Recovering from a loved-one's death is just not that easy.
Coping with other people's reactions
You have to remember that no-one knows exactly what you're suffering. And no one knows for sure what went on in your relationship with your dead partner.
So really, other people should resist commenting on any new romance you have. In reality, friends and family will have a view on it.
Hopefully, many will be pleased that you have found happiness again. But there may be jealousy from other friends who have been on their own for longer.
In-laws
Unfortunately, you may find your dead partner's family cannot come to terms with a new relationship even if years have gone by. This is because they feel their relative is being forgotten.
If that happens, try to discuss with them just how much your late partner will always be in your mind. You might also gently suggest that he or she would not want you to grieve forever.
In time, they may come round to the idea, but it is a situation that requires kindness and tact on both sides.
And while it's easy to see any criticism by your in-laws as an unnecessary obstacle to your new life, try to remember that they too have had to deal with the loss of your partner.
Don't forget that your in-laws are your children's grandparents or aunts and uncles. As such, it will be painful all round to fall out with them in a big way.
Sons and daughters
You may also have serious difficulties with your own sons and daughters.
If your children are still living at home, they will be affected by any new relationship. And they may be quite hostile because they think that Mum or Dad is being airbrushed out of history.
It can be very difficult to deal with this kind of upset because your children may still be deeply upset by their loss.
In such a situation, it's wise not to be blatant about your new love until your children are more ready to accept the idea. So don't allow your lover to stay overnight before your children have come to terms with your new romantic happiness.
If your children have left home, you won't have quite the same problems.
But even if their father or mother died several years ago, your adult offspring may react negatively when you tell them you've found love again.
And if you usually stay over when you visit, be sensitive to the fact they might feel awkward if you want your new partner to accompany you - especially if you're asking to share a bed.
This is a highly inflammatory situation for families to deal with, and the best advice anyone can give you is: take your time.
Sex in your new relationship
After a bereavement, many people decide they will never have a sexual relationship again. This is particularly likely when the death happens late in life.
But a lot of men and women find their sexual urges return after a while.
Unfortunately, this can lead to intense feelings of guilt, mainly caused by a feeling you are being unfaithful to the dead partner.
Post-bereavement sexual guilt manifests itself in three main ways.
* Worries about masturbation. After a few months on their own, quite a lot of older men and women experience a desire to masturbate. This need for relief is largely physiological: it is caused by the normal workings of the body and its hormones. It isn't something you should be ashamed about.
* Difficulties with erection. Many widowed men experience erectile dysfunction (impotence) when they try to have sex with someone else. Counselling of the couple is usually effective. Sometimes it's useful to give the man a short course of erection drugs to build confidence.
* Vaginal dryness. When a woman decides to resume sex, she often finds she can't relax. As a result, her natural lubricant doesn't flow, making sex uncomfortable. Counselling by an experienced family planning doctor will often put matters right. Also, the use of a good vaginal lubricant will help. A course of vaginal hormone may benefit post-menopausal women.
What happens if your new relationship fails?
Unfortunately, it is not uncommon for a new relationship to fail because of guilt or because you are not emotionally ready to move on.
Sometimes your new partner may walk away because he or she considers you too needy or too emotionally involved with your dead partner.
Whatever the reason for the break-up, it will probably hit you hard - and may resurrect all sorts of pain related to the death of your spouse.
If this happens, try to realise this romance was not your only chance of happiness.
It's likely you weren't really ready for a new relationship and you may need to spend time grieving for your dead partner and building up your own strength and happiness.
Spend time being single again, catch up with friends and maybe get some help for your sadness.
You will find that after a period of several months - or even a year or two - you are more ready for a social life, including romance.
letting go
How do you walk away from someone you love
And take the road of friend;
Can you reroute the course you have taken
And start over once again?
I don't really want to let you go
But inside me I know I must;
The times we've loved . . . the times you've left
My heart says stay . . . but it's my mind I must trust.
We have shared so much together
Laughter . . . fun times . . . tears;
Yet sometimes we can't turn back time
We must walk away, and allow ourselves to heal.
I know one day you will be happy
And your soulmate you will find;
I know we each have one out there
Even if for now . . . only in our minds.
May life be gentle with you
May God's best come your way;
And on some quiet tomorrow
You will realize things were better this way.