Dating & Relationships

Romance 101

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Give your lover a dozen roses and do it with a creative twist.
Give eleven red roses and one white rose. Attach a note that reads:
"In every bunch there's one who stands out and you are that one."

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Sending a birthday card isn't just a good idea, it's an obligatory romantic gesture.
But how about doing something different this year?
On your lover's birthday, send a "thank you" card to his/her mother.

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Gallantry never really goes out of style.
So every once in a while kiss her hand with a flourish.
Note: The proper way to kiss a woman's hand is to lower your lips to her hand.
You don't raise her hand to your lips.



Little Things Mean a Lot

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Gift wrap a wishbone in a jewelry box.
Send it to her with a note that says,
"I wish you were here."

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Unplug the TV.
Put a note on the screen saying,
"Turn me on instead."

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Go through revolving doors together.

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Write him a little love note.
Insert it into the book he's reading.



Bigger Is Better

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Make a custom bannera BIG banner to welcome him home from a trip
(or just to say "I love you!").
Use construction paper and crayons, or poster board and markers, or old sheets and spray paint.

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Craig liked doing things in a big way.
He was a dramatic and loud (though lovable) kind of guy. Mary, on the other hand, was proper and quiet (and just as lovable). Craig sometimes criticized Mary for not being expressive or outrageous enough. Until . . . one day when Craig returned home from a business trip and was greeted by Mary and two hundred forty-three members of the local high school marching band on their front lawn. (Most people don't consider John Philip Sousa marches to be romantic but Craig does!)



Romance for Dummies

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Practice "Even-Day/Odd-Day" Romance:
On even days it's your turn to be romantic, and on odd days it's your partner's turn.

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No time or too lazy to wrap those gifts?
Buy fancy bags and pre-decorated boxes for gift-wrapping presents.

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Ask her best girlfriend or her mother for help. Ask her to go shopping with you (secretly!).
Tell her you want to spend one afternoon shopping for a year's worth of gifts for your partner. Establish a budget, let her think about it for a week, then go shopping together.



It's Not What You Do

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Don't just walk into the house tonight the way you always do.
Pause on the porch; ring the doorbell;
and greet her with one red rose and a bottle of champagne.

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Not that it really matters, but I was just wondering . . .

Why do we have birthday cakes and wedding cakes, but no anniversary cakes or Valentine's cakes?


Why do we have Christmas tree ornaments, but no special ornaments with which to celebrate other special occasions?


Why is Columbus Day a national holiday, but Valentine's Day isn't?


Why is it crude to tell jokes that characterize races and religions in stereotyped ways, but it's acceptable to be a "gender bigot" and stereotype men and women?



But How You Do It

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Want to jazz up the presentation of a special meal?
Buy a little hunk of dry ice from a local ice house. Put it in a bowl of water and place it on your serving tray. You'll create wondrous, billowing white clouds!

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Okay, let's say you've decided to give her the complete collection of The Moody Blues'
(her all-time favorite group) albums. Let's now give this gift a creative twist. Instead of simply wrapping the CDs and handing them to her, do this:

Remove the CDs from their cases.


Hide the CDs around the house.


Gift-wrap all the CD cases separately.


Attach a note to each gift . . .


Each note gives clues to the location of the CD . . .


And each note's clues are based on each album's title.


Days of Future Passed is hidden in a photo album.

To Our Children's Children's Children is in the kids' toy box.

On the Threshold of a Dream is hidden in your bedroom.

Long Distance Voyager is hidden along with airline tickets to Tahiti.



Classy

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Dress up for dinner at home. Tuxedo for him, evening gown for her.

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Hire a pianist to play during a romantic dinner at home.

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Anything from Tiffany's.

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Take a leisurely stroll through a local park or public garden.

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Learn calligraphy so you can create incredible love letters for him/her.

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Get a pair of crystal champagne flutes. Use them often!

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Hire a limousine for an elegant evening out.

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Have dinner-for-two prepared in your home by the best chef in town.



A Kiss Is Just a Kiss

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Give her one Hershey's Kiss.
Give her one thousand Hershey's Kisses.

Remove all the little paper strips (that say "Kisses" on them) from a couple hundred Hershey's Kisses. Fill a little jewelry box with them. Wrap 'em up and present them to her.

Write a clever certificate explaining that the little paper slips are coupons
redeemable for one kiss each.

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Best movie kisses:

The Way We Were: When Barbra Streisand and Robert Redford kiss in front of her fireplace.


Life Is Beautiful: The kiss underneath the banquet table.


Gone with the Wind: When Rhett steals a major kiss from Scarlett while he's helping her escape as Atlanta burns.

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Best songs about kissing:

"Kiss Me in the Rain," by Barbra Streisand


"One More Kiss," from the Broadway musical Follies


"Kiss," by Prince


"Shut Up and Kiss Me," by Mary Chapin Carpenter


"Blowing Kisses in the Wind," by Paula Abdul


"It's Been a Long, Long Time," by Bing Crosby


"Kiss Me Baby," by The Beach Boys


"Kiss You All Over," by Exile


"Say It with a Kiss," by Billie Holiday


"Sealed with a Kiss," by Bobby Vinton


"Put That Kiss Back Where You Found It," by Benny Goodman



Daily & Weekly & Monthly & Yearly

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Daily Romantic Checklist:

Compliment your partner.


Spend twenty minutes of uninterrupted time together.


Check in with each other during the day.


Perform one small and unexpected gesture.


Say "I love you" at least three times.


Thank your partner for something.


Look for romantic concepts in the newspaper.


Take an extra minute when kissing good-bye.

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A Weekly Romantic Checklist:

Bring home one small, unexpected gift or present.


Share some form of physical intimacy.


Share an entire afternoon or evening together.


Share two insights you gained this week.


Write at least one little love note.


Mail something to your partner.


Make love!


Plan something special for the upcoming weekend.

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A Monthly Romantic Checklist

Plan one romantic surprise for this month.


Re-stock your stash of greeting cards.


Go out to dinner once or twice.


Rent at least two romantic movies.


Make love several times!


Make plans for a three-day romantic weekend sometime in the next three months.


Plan one romantic event with a seasonal theme.

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A Yearly Romantic Checklist

Make a New Year's resolution to be a more creative romantic.


Make plans for your next anniversary.


Think of an unusual way to celebrate your partner's birthday.


Review your plans for your next vacation.


Create a special "Romance" category in your household budget.


Make plans for Valentine's Day well in advance!



Wonderful Weekends

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Select a theme for the weekend based on a type of movie.
(It could be a film genre, like westerns, science fiction or musicals; or it could be based on a favorite actor or character in a movie.) Rent three movies that match the theme and then: Rent costumes that match the theme! Exercise your creativity and sense of fun with a little fantasy!

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Surprise your partner with an unexpected three-day weekend.
Arrange it ahead of time with his or her boss and staff. This may take some time to coordinate just right, but the payoff is well worth it!

Just picture the scene:It's a typical Friday morning. You both get up at your usual time. You shower and get dressed. Over breakfast you turn to your unsuspecting partner and say, "Oh, by the way, we've both got the day off work today. What would you like to do?"

After your partner recovers from the shock and showers you with kisses and thank-yous you get to plan the day together. What are you going to do?? Go back to bed and sleep til noon? Go back to bed and make love? Go for a drive? Go shopping? Go out for lunch?

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The surprise get-away weekend is a romantic classic.
Find a quaint bed and breakfast or picturesque inn. Pack bags for both of you, and whisk your partner away upon his or her arrival home from work!

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What if you have a house full of kids? Try the "Distraction Diversion":
Rent several of your kids' favorite movies; buy a ten-pound bag of popcorn and a bunch of juice boxes. The kids sit hypnotically in front of the TV while the two of you escape upstairs for some "quality time" together.




Generating Ideas

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Set a goal of generating or discovering one new romantic idea each day for a year.
(Your commitment will help draw ideas to you.) Keep your notes, articles, comics, ads and miscellaneous reminders in a shoebox under your bed.

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Train your subconscious mind to find romantic ideas for you.
Hey, why should your subconscious mind be doing nothing but daydreaming all day long while the rest of your mind is doing all the work? Scientists say that we only use about 10 percent of our brains: This is a way to boost your brain efficiency to 25 percent or better!

Seriously, you can assign a small portion of your brain the task of being constantly on the lookout for romantic ideas. The goal is to retrain your mind to stop filtering out those ideas, and start letting them come to the attention of your conscious mind. What starts happening is that romantic articles and gift ideas will start "jumping out at you." Guaranteed.

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Practice creating "Variations on a Theme" for generating romantic ideas.

Start with any idea and build on it, expand it, extend it.

Start with "greeting cards": Buy one; buy a hundred! Make some yourself. Send one-a-day for a week, send one-a-day for a month! Frame some cards that she's given you.


Start with "candy": What's her favorite? Buy ten pounds of it. Fill her shoes with candy; fill her purse, her glove compartment, her pillow. Send it to her at work. Spell out words with it. Create trails throughout the house with it.




Be My Valentine!

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For future reference:
Buy an extra bag of Valentine Conversation Heart candies and save them for use six months later.

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While sharing stories from their childhoods,
Pete told Deb that, because he grew up poor, he was unpopular in grammar school. Every Valentine's Day when the children would decorate their shoeboxes so they could deliver Valentines to each other, Pete's box always remained empty. Deb thought this was the saddest thing she'd ever heard.

For the next Valentine's Day she decorated a shoebox and filled it with Valentines. And Deb promised him that he would never go without a Valentine again.




Little Love Stories

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Charlie and his girlfriend Randi were aboard Continental Airlines flight 191
from Newark to San Francisco. Shortly after takeoff the pilot made this announcement: "I have an important message for the passenger in seat 3-B. Will you marry the gentleman in seat 3-A? If the answer is yes, press the Call Button for the flight attendant." As Randi burst into tears, Charlie kept saying "Push the button!" When she did, a flight attendant came up with a silver tray, champagne and the ring!

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Mary was a Beanie Baby fanatic.
Her husband, Bob, hired a custom doll-maker to create a "Beanie Bob" for her.

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Tom arrived home from running errands one Saturday morning
to find his wife, Susan, gone. His daughter handed him a note from her:

"Go to the drug store. See the pharmacist." Even though his first reaction was, "Why? Who's sick?" he went along. What else could he do but follow instructions? When he started up the car, a tape of romantic music started playing. ("Ah, ha! I think something's going on here!") The pharmacist had a card for him: "Happy Anniversary! Now, head for the liquor store!" A bottle of champagne was waiting for him there, along with another note: "Ready to celebrate? Not yet! On to the men's shop first!" A monogrammed shirt was his surprise there. The note was no longer a surprise: "Almost done! But first, please stop at the grocery store." A picnic basket packed with goodies was ready for him there.

The last note simply had an address on it. It led him to a romantic little bed and breakfast, where Susan was waiting for him. The rest, as they say, is history.



ABC's

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Always kiss each other hello and goodbye. Be there for each other always.
Create an environment of love. Do it. Escape from the kids. Fight fair. Give of your time. Handle with care. Inspire your partner with your love. Judge not. Keep your good memories alive. Listen to her. Make love with your partner's needs foremost. Never go to bed angry. Offer to handle an unpleasant chore. Praise him. Quality Time isn't just for the kids. Respect her feelings. Say what you feel when you feel it. Tell her you love her every day. Every day. Understand your differences. Valentine's Day is every day. Walk together; talk together. Excite your partner as only you know how. You can never say "I love you" too often. Zero-in on his little passions.

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Give your partner a "Romantic ABCs Coupon":

Write the letters of the alphabet on twenty-six slips of paper.
The coupon-holder picks one letter out of a hat.
The coupon-giver will create a day of romance with gifts and gestures that all begin with that letter.



Hearts
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Make a heart-shaped pizza.

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Your initials in a heart in skywriting.

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Cut the kitchen sponges into heart shapes.

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While out at a formal dinner, nonchalantly draw a heart on the back of his hand with a pen.

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Have a heart-shaped pool built.

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Your initials in a heart on wet cement in a sidewalk.

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Trace a heart shape in fogged-up windows.

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Your initials in a twenty-foot heart in the snow.

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A quilt with a heart motif.

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Your initials in a heart-etched on a brick in your patio.

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Place the pepperoni in the shape of a heart on the pizza.

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Trace a fifty-foot heart in the sand on a beach.

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Grill burgers in the shape of a heart.

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Heart-shaped sandwiches.

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For math nuts: r = a (1-cosA).

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Use heart-shaped stickers .

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Band-Aids with heart designs.

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Trace a thirty-foot heart on the ice when ice skating.

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Heart-shaped place mats.

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A silk tie with hearts on it.

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A heart-shaped chunk of cheese.

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A mug with hearts on it.

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A heart-shaped mug.

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A heart-shaped door mat.

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Socks with heart designs on them.

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Heart-shaped doilies.

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Heart-shaped eyeglasses.

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A front-yard flag with hearts on it.

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Poke holes in a heart-shape in the crust of a freshly baked pie.

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Make heart-shaped chocolate chip cookies.

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Heart-shaped confetti.

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The classic heart-shaped box of chocolates.

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Heart-shaped chocolate treats.

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Carve a heart with your initials in a tree.

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Get a heart-shaped tattoo with her initials in it.

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Greeting cards with heart.

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Fold the dinner napkins into heart shapes.

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Silk boxer shorts with a heart motif.

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Draw hearts on the bathroom mirror with lipstick.

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Use only Love Stamps with heart shapes on them.

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Find a wine with a heart motif on the label.

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Heart-shaped rubber stamps.

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Heart-shaped cakes.

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Heart designs in icing on a cake.

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Heart-shaped candles.

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Heart-shaped appetizers.

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Heart-shaped picture frames.

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Heart-shaped wreaths.

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Heart-shaped ice cubes.

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A heart-shaped rug.

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Find a heart-shaped Jell-O mold.

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Cut banana slices into heart shapes and put them in Jell-O.

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Shape pancakes into heart shapes.

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Cut toast into heart shapes.

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Cut a heart shape out of toast and fry an egg in the center.

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Heart-shaped Rice Krispy Treats.

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Slice strawberries into heart-shapes.

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A heart-shaped pendant.

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A heart-shaped pin.

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Heart-shaped earrings.

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Heart-shaped pasta.

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Heart-shaped red balloons.

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Heart-shaped cookie cutters.

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Heart-shaped key rings.

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Heart-shaped candy conversation hearts.



Best of the Best

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Best romantic gift: The gift of time


Best romantic present: Your own presence


Best romantic car: Triumph Spitfire


Most romantic comic strip: Rose Is Rose


Best romantic TV show: Mad About You


Most romantic city (in the world): Verona, Italy


Most romantic city (in the USA): San Francisco, California


Best romantic color: Red/PMS #1795 CVU


Most romantic Broadway musical: Phantom of the Opera


Best romantic movie: Casablanca


Best romantic actress: Greta Garbo


Best romantic actor: Clark Gable


Best romantic hotel: The Grand Hotel, Mackinac Island


Best romantic voice (male): Barry White


Best romantic voice (female): Sade


Best romantic song: "You are So Beautiful (To Me)," by Joe Cocker



Best Brief Advice

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Gals: You want more romance? Give him more sex.
(Try having sex every night after night after night after night until he begs you to stop! Just try it as a little experiment. It just might transform your ho-hum relationship into a raging love affair!)

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Guys: You want more sex? Give her more romance.
(Romance her like Don Juan. Like Romeo. Like Clark Gable. Romance her every day in every way. Romance her using every single idea in this book and then think up one thousand and one more ways to be romantic. And she'll give you all the sex you could ever dream of.)

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Best way to create more time in your life:
Shoot your TV.

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Use gifts and presents to express love and appreciation.
Don't use them to apologize after a fight or make up for some dumb thing you've done. This strategy eventually backfires.

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The unasked-for gift is most appreciated.
The surprise gift is most cherished.

If you’re like most dudes, you have upwards of 2.5 moves in the sack that you feel pretty confident in and can do in your sleep -- literally. Your gal, however, needs more than your limited arsenal to please her the way she deserves to be pleased. Being a chick, she likely will not tell you what she wants you to try, but will assume you know what she wants you to try. Such is the conundrum us guys live with every day. Well, this is your lucky day, because MadeMan is here to break down some of the things she wants you to try. Use it for good. Or evil. Whichever works.
Try Breaking the Normal Routine
Men are creatures of habit, so it really isn’t your fault that you follow a paint-by-numbers routine in bed. It’s in your nature. Unfortunately for men, the ladies like something called variety. You are probably asking, ‘what is this variety you speak of?’ In the bedroom, it’s something other than stumbling in, being the best missionary you can be for all of three minutes, then finishing off some Spam before drifting away to dreamland. If you always start the same way every time you sex her up, you have no variety, Dude. So go opposite. If you normally zig, then start zagging. Normally go left? Go right, Son. If you throw something new at her and she’s still expecting the same old boring you, she might get the Big O just from the change of pace. Either that or she will suspect you are cheating on her and are practicing your new moves on her.
Try Traveling
Nothing rocks a world like traveling. How many times have you covered more than one or two rooms while showing your ladyfriend a good time? Likely the answer is MAYBE once. Starting in one room, then moving to the -- we’ll call it the ‘party room’ -- is about as fancy as most guys get. What chicks would like to see is taking the whole show on a trip around the house/hotel/brothel. She also wants you to stay in control during this guided tour. Simply guiding her from room-to-room by the hand will kill the mood quicker than your old boring routine. She wants you to ‘take’ her from room-to-room and don’t tell her ahead of time where she is headed.
Try Standing
Standing. The revolutionary sex position. There are some fancy names for standing positions, but we’re too lazy to look them up in our worn copy of the Kama Sutra. What standing means for you? Bonus points. It’s something she’s been wanting you to try for a long time because of the different stimulation she receives, it’s something new (read: she can pretend you are someone else), and it is not routine. The standing positions vary, as we are sure your dad told you about when he had ‘the talk’ with you, and chicks want them all. Face-to-face, behind, and other cool positions we don’t even know about yet. Get on your feet. She’ll thank you for it in the morning.
Try Talking To Her
Whether she talks to you during sex or not is a moot point, because she definitely wants you to talk to her. She wants you to try and bring her to the point of no return using your wordsmith ways -- complemented by your sexual prowess, of course. The sex talk list depends on what type of girl you are with. It can range from just verbally boosting her on a pedestal, to the naughty unprintable stuff. Understanding what she might want if part of your job, although it can at times be impossible to know. If you are unsure what level of talk she wants, start off in the safe zone and build upon her reaction to it. Our guess if she will want ‘the works’. Because all chicks are naughty that way.
Try Spending Time on Her
You’re just happy someone is willing to allow you access to their goods, and this usually leads you to getting your rocks off while attempting to give her a couple minutes of semi-pleasure. What she’d love for you to try is HER. Take a step back from what you need and spend some time ensuring she is satisfied before you proceed getting your satisfaction on. Massaging works. Like, a full body massage. As does using your flapper for more than trash talking about fantasy football. There’s not a woman on earth that doesn’t want you to do this. You probably already do this on occasion, but what she wants is some lingering. Take your time on her. Trust us. That’s what she’s thinking as soon as she enters the bedroom.
Try the Unspeakable Stuff
She’s adventurous, right? Or at least curious. She wonders about the things the kids are raving about and she wants you to try them. But she doesn’t want to bring them up for fear you will react adversely. You know, like calling her a whore and stuff. There are several things in this category she wants you to try and we will let you pick and choose which ones to employ. But you know what we’re talking about. Things that could get you arrest in the 50’s. We say, what was yesterday’s arrest is today’s bedroom pastime. That’s just one of many wise things we say on a daily basis.

I think we all know by now that ruining a date is no difficult task. But perhaps by looking at a solidified list of the sorry scenarios you're accidentally getting yourself into, you'll be able to steer clear of such shocking, unfortunate instances in future courting.

What never to say

Because the majority of your dates will most likely involve a meal, which leaves a gaping hole of time just asking to be filled with conversational errors, it's most important to watch your mouth. Here are some tips of subjects never to touch on.

#1 Your ex

She already hates your ex. She hates that you even opened your eyes and saw women before you met her. Unfortunately, she's always desperately curious about your romantic past and, therefore, won't shut you up if you're silly enough to bring it up. She will, however, still hate you for it.

#2 Your mom

While some women love men that love their mothers, it's a dodgy subject and a thin line. When first getting to know someone, unless it's just a quick mention of your mother's unimportant role in a story, don't bring her up. You can be all too easily categorized as a mama's boy who may not know how to cook for himself, clean his own clothes and cut his own hair (NOTE: It does not matter if these things are true, so long as she does not know it).

#3 Your financial problems

Yes, it's a tough time for nearly everyone we know and it makes for a good conversation starter at a bar. But not at a restaurant with a woman you'd like to take home. While she may not be snooty or inconsiderate or even judge you negatively for your current lack of funds, it's best to avoid a conversation as controversial as this, considering a woman wants to feel that she (and the bill) will be taken care of.

#4 Stories about strippers

Even if you've come up with the most ingenious way of engaging in a wild sexual experience (http://www.mademan.com/how-facilitate-threesome/) or have the most entertaining sexual escapade to share, DON'T. Not until you've felt out her vibe enough to notice if she's the kind of chick who can dig off the fly, bizarro anecdotes. Most women do not get a kick out of strippers, hard as that may be for you to believe.

#5 Too much mention of brodeo

If you're at a dinner with a new lady and the topics of conversation keep returning somehow to this hilarious thing your best friend did or the way you spent some several weekends with your closest dudes, watch out. This might signal to your date that you're in "man-love" with your homeboys and, therefore, imply that she'll be in tight competition. Women cannot stand being pitted against the group of bro's, so try to tone down the man-to-man love for the dinner's duration.

#6 Family baggage

Family problems, insecurities, instances and traumas are likely a big part of a lot of people's lives. We all keep a collection of stories that have deep emotional significance in our personal lives. HOWEVER, nothing says "Run!" to a new woman like an overbearing confession concerning torrid pasts and tortured souls. Try to keep the conversation light for at least for the first few meetings, so she doesn't feel like she's walking into a death trap of dead-end problems.

#7 Awkwardly complimenting

In the heat of the moment, when a pretty woman is sitting across from you, staring back expectantly, it's often easy to get jelly mouth and have your tongue betray you. For this reason, try to stick to pretty standard compliments if you're looking to flatter your female. Something like "That's a beautiful dress, by the way," or "I really like how your hair looks like that," is perfectly tempered. A woman just wants to know that you're noticing her. This is enough to get her in the mood to pay attention to you, without giving you opportunity to screw it up by scrambling for poorly arranged phrases.

#8 What she's eating

Obviously, at a dinner, it's known that people ask "What are you getting?" or "How's your food?" - and this is entirely appropriate. What is not appropriate, however, is making some seemingly unloaded comment about how much your date is eating, why she ordered a salad instead of a steak, or pestering her about her decision to be a vegetarian. Women are insecure. The end. Don't address their dinner in these ways while they're eating it, or they'll be gone before even thinking about ingesting another bite.

What never to do

It's officially fact that men and women are alien species to each other and that our behavior is therefore mismatched at many moments. Thus meaning, something you do on a date that you would not interpret as being awfully offensive, may immediately imply not-so-awesome things to her. So, after watching your mouth, you'll need to (at least mildly) monitor your male instincts.

#9 Picking the wrong place from the start

If you don't know what "kind of gal" you're taking out (meaning, whether she's a sports bar kind of chick or a ritz gala kind of lady), then try to shoot for something pleasantly in the middle. A nicely upscale, but none too fancy restaurant will do just fine. If you're at all interested in having this date go someplace other than the restaurant, you'll need to make sure the dinner experience is so wonderful that she can only assume what comes next will follow accordingly.

#10 Eying your waitress

Sure, sometimes it's good to tease a woman's interest by subtly showing her that you're attractive to other women. But, on a date, this is not the right way to get her excitably envious. It is, however, the right way to get her super excited to slap you in the face (unfortunately, in the non-kinky way).
#11 Forcing her to dance
Some women have absolutely no confidence in their fancy feet, no matter how drunk or desirable they (or you) are. So while it may be a cute thing that leading, charming men do in movies, grabbing a girl and forcing her to hop up and jive despite her flailing arms and big cringe, let's leave it to the movies for now. You may cause your date serious humiliation, which will immediately close the door to your post-dinner potential.

#12 Answering your phone

I don't care if you're the CEO of a fortunate 500 or the biggest club promoter in Hollywood, do not pick up your cell phone at a dinner table if you're intending to get laid. Women love nothing more than uninterrupted attention. So, turn off your phone entirely, because even if she sees you look at the screen and ignore the call, she'll assume it's another girl. And oh boy, you can only imagine how bad things get from there.

#13 Ordering for her

At this point in the 21st century, we would all hope that this one is common sense, but sometimes, in an effort to capture old-fashioned chivalrous behavior, men slip up here. Don't order for her unless it's a bottle of something fantastic at the dinner's beginning that you've already cleared with her taste buds. There are other ways to be chivalrous and charming (http://www.mademan.com/get-her-dinner-bed/) that are better appreciated and, therefore, better rewarded.

Is long distance love possible?

Can a love overcome mountains, oceans and thousand of agonizing miles? If we were to ever find our true love, our solemate, on a different continent, can it be our destiny to be together? How can the longing of two lovers hearts surpass the many, many obstacles presented by such a situation? Is true love stronger than anything put before it?

Two cultures, the highest mountains, the deepest seas and the longest miles may separate two hearts, but only time can tell if the hearts are to be together forever...

Miles and miles and miles apart.
Although so far you've touched my heart.
Your laugh, your voice, your adoring smile,
Seem to shorten every mile.

I wake every morning and rest at night,
My thoughts and dreams filled with your sight.
Oh how I wish, even for one night,
I could hold your hand and you hold mine tight.

Not just a little briused or battered,
When I think of the distance it's completely shattered.
We'll never give up or say goodbye.
Remember together, the moon in the sky.
Your heart's a part of me and mine of you.
With that alone, we shall not be blue.Is long distance love possible?

Can a love overcome mountains, oceans and thousand of agonizing miles? If we were to ever find our true love, our solemate, on a different continent, can it be our destiny to be together? How can the longing of two lovers hearts surpass the many, many obstacles presented by such a situation? Is true love stronger than anything put before it?

Two cultures, the highest mountains, the deepest seas and the longest miles may separate two hearts, but only time can tell if the hearts are to be together forever...

Miles and miles and miles apart.
Although so far you've touched my heart.
Your laugh, your voice, your adoring smile,
Seem to shorten every mile.

I wake every morning and rest at night,
My thoughts and dreams filled with your sight.
Oh how I wish, even for one night,
I could hold your hand and you hold mine tight.

Not just a little briused or battered,
When I think of the distance it's completely shattered.
We'll never give up or say goodbye.
Remember together, the moon in the sky.
Your heart's a part of me and mine of you.
With that alone, we shall not be blue.

The modern world is an expensive place, where most households require two incomes to purchase even the most modest of dwellings. Couple this fact with the progress women have made in the workplace since Eisenhower was president and you’ve got a perfect cocktail for a potentially sour brew known as long-distance relationships, which are brought on by career moves that often mean a change of address.

Careers can pull anyone across the country provided the opportunity is grand enough. You’ll need to look inside yourself and be sure that you’re ready to deal with this level of commitment. If you’ve been tempted to stray while she was still living in town, chances are you’re not ready. However, if you can’t see yourself with anyone but her, there are a host of factors to consider when embarking upon long-distance relationships.

Agree on an end

Before you decide to jump headfirst into long-distance relationships, you should first agree on an end goal with your partner -- a specific time, be it six months or a year, when the separation is going to end. You can reunite, she can move home, you can follow or you can call it quits. There has to be an agreed upon goal to look forward to when you first embark upon long-distance relationships. Otherwise, you may end up stringing along the status quo indefinitely, which breeds a particularly robust strain of frustration.

Be realistic in your assessment of this relationship timetable. Make sure to leave enough time to accomplish the goals that forced the separation in the first place. Trying to rush through an experience, even for a relationship, is a good way to build up unhealthy levels of stress.

Schedule communication

The quality and quantity of communication with your woman will need to increase substantially when you embark on long-distance relationships. Be prepared for this increase in verbal Olympics. Make sure your phone bill is ready as well by switching to a new cell phone plan with unlimited long distance or make sure your landline carrier is providing the best rates. You will need to be on the same page with your girl as far as frequency goes; will you speak three times a week or once a day? If you’re not on the same page, one party will feel slighted and an insurmountable rift will begin to develop between the two of you that will make the physical distance seem minuscule.

Schedule visits

Visits act like mini-ends. A weekend together is vitally important at least once every six weeks. For all the Jetson-like qualities of video chat, there is no plug-in to replicate touch or smell -- at least not yet. And since smell is the strongest sense tied to memory, you’ll want to keep up physical relations during long-distance relationships. A trip to visit your significant other every once in a while shows her that you still care, and that she’s still very important to you no matter how far away she is.

Don’t just go and visit each other though. Instead, try to create something uniquely you. Taking mutual vacations away from your respective lives creates newness in your relationship and keeps it progressing. It’s important that your relationship continues to grow, not just maintains, despite the distance.

Raise your trust level

When living a great deal of your lives away from each other in a long distance relationship it’s natural that you develop some of your once-laudable independent tendencies. Proceed with caution, however, since she’s going to be developing the same independent instincts. Stories will begin to revolve around people you’ve never heard of and she’ll begin to take on certain characteristics you won’t recognize. Your role will change slightly as well. In a proximal relationship of this caliber, most of your free time is spent with each other.

If you were in charge of planning dates and filling free time, someone else is going to be filling that role. It’s not an attack against you, so try not to show too much jealousy. Let her know you still care and love your role in her life, but you can’t be an anchor from hundreds of miles away.

LONG-DISTANCE LOVIN'

When it comes to long-distance relationships the name of the game is prioritizing what’s important to the both of you. If it’s family or a relationship that you find occupying the top spot, great, but you’ll have to sacrifice your career a little bit. If you are both career-oriented people and can put your relationship on the back burner for a while, then a long-distance relationship may be for you. It’s all about weighing the ups and downs associated with what you want from your life.

From The Moment We met
I Knew You'd be Someone i could never forget
We talked we laughed we made memories
There was just something about you
It seemed to good to be true
People tried to come in between us
We stayed strong and stuck by each other
We've had our up's and our down's
Our Smile's And Frown's
My Love for you just grew
My love for you is so true
You make me feel what no other has ever made me feel
It's like our love is so unreal
You're my missing puzzle piece
I've made my mistakes in life
With you everything feels so right
I Don't have a worry in the world
I feel so safe as you hold me in your arms
I love you without a doubt
I'll stick by you no matter what
Thick, thin, ice and snow
My love for you will just grow
Even tho you're moving away
You'll always be my ay bay bay
We can make it through anything
You're like my sunshine on a pitch black night
We get along so perfectly
For once i feel like i'm worth something to someone
You're the most amazing person I've ever met
Chaney You Will Be Impossible to forget
I Will always love you for you
There's nothing in this world that could make me not
Flaws and all you are my everything
I love how i can talk to you about anything
I love how you can make me smile when i wanna be pissed
I love the way you look at me it makes my heart melt
I love the way you love my son as if he were yours
I love how i can just be me around you
I love how you don't judge me for the stupid shit i do and say
You're everything i wanted and more.
I'm so lucky to be able to call you mine!

I Love You Chaney <3 Today,Tomorrow,Always <3

Written by Kelly

A very goof friend of mine, sigh hate ppl that hurt her, but she can always do better =p. Kelly its his lost, ull find other ppl that appreciates u better

Soul Mates are an experience. You will find that throughout your life, you will have many, many opportunities to connect with, or link up with, those that you have had experiences with before. It may have been in other planes of existence, in other lives, or in many other ways. So yes, you could call many of these relationships soul mates.

When two people connect and have a feeling of familiarity or a sense that they are connected for some reason other than they can imagine or know with their minds, often it is because they have soul mate qualities. You can even make a new soul mate in this life if you choose. So, let us create clarity with this question of, "What is a soul mate?"

A soul mate is a person or a being that you have a connection with from a soul level. I'm defining soul connection as being of greater expression, greater desire, or greater connection than just the purpose of connecting in your physical body. Soul mates come in many expressions.

When you do connect with someone with whom you have created a soul agreement to come together--to acknowledge one another--it can be an easy experience. Or, it can be a difficult experience. It depends on what you both decide you want to co-create and why you both came together.

Sometimes soul mates come together to wake each other up. Sometimes that can be a painful experience. Sometimes soul mates come together because they have achieved great heights. They have manifested great awarenesses in previous lives and are coming together in this life to celebrate and to bring forth more light upon this planet.

You see, we also have soul-groups. I bet that you can recognize many people that are in your soul-group already. However, I get a feeling that this questioner has more personal love interests in mind.

Yes, you can connect with a person that has the qualities of a soul mate, and they can be a significant relationship in the love interest area. Yes, you can create a relationship that flows easily and effortlessly. In this relationship there may be an awareness that you perhaps have differences. There may also be a willingness to create a place to allow each other to have their individual expression without feeling that one's nature needs to react because of lack or scarcity. That will allow the relationship to flow.

You will find that when two people come together who are soul mates, they will have made an agreement to benefit each other and to help in each other's lives in some way. Through their compatibilities, you will usually find they have a spiritual connection as their primary attraction. Then it will blend on an emotional level, and then you will find the mental. The last level to be discovered between soul mates is often the physical connection. Sometimes there will be a spark placed there to create the attraction so that you may find each other again. We are in a body, yes!? Therefore, the physical cannot be left out.