Cougars (women in their 40s+ dating men 7+ years their junior) or Pumas (women in their 30’s dating younger men) whatever you like to call them, whether you love or hate them, they are out there. From Halle Berry to Demi Moore they love their younglings, and we’re not talking about their children. Why these women do it? Because they can, they are at their sexual peak and who better than a younger guy to fulfill those needs? They’ve got stamina and that’s all they need. Do you like older women?
What is a cougar?The Unknown Cougar !
The short answer: A cougar is an older woman who is primarily attracted to and has sex with significantly younger men. I have to ask …”and this is wrong and unacceptable, why?” (giggle)
The long answer: The most commonly accepted definition of a cougar is a woman 40 years of age or older who exclusively pursues very young men. “Define very” (insert giggle and cougarish grin here) The onset of the cougar years is hotly debated. The ten year age difference seems to be an unspoken but accepted minimum between participants.
Why does this happen?
Is it about sex? A woman sexually peaks at 40 while a man peaks at the age of 17. I think if a woman passes the “age of matrimony”, before she finds an old partner that shares the same passion, she would venture into recreational flavoring of younger men.
Why would men ever be interested in older women? It’s simply because they are attracted to the confidence and sexual experience of older women and there are no strings called commitment attached.
Older, single women have been dubbed "cougars" for a reason: they're felines (females) who hunt younger men. As such, cougars are an interesting and unusual breed of women. They seem to want what men want: sex with no strings attached.
In that respect, they seem almost like the female counterpart of The Player: The Playerette. However, the cougar and the playerette have some key differences.
Read on to learn these differences and get some tips to help you make the most of these great creatures.
Typically, cougars prey upon men almost young enough to be their sons. Fortysomething cougars would be attracted to men in their 20’s, and fiftysomething cougars would pursue men in their 30’s and so on. Some cougars are less interested in a relationship than a sexual conquest, perhaps enjoying the fact that they are physically appealing to men who are considered to be in the prime of their virility. Again I ask …”and this is wrong and unacceptable, why?” and I’m giggling…What I didn’t know was that a cougar can be married or unmarried.Ashton Kutscher & Demi Moore
Although the term ‘cougar’ comes from the big game predatory cat of the same name, the cougar connection also may allude to the wearing of animal print clothing by older and more sexually aggressive women. How many of you just stopped to think if they have been sighted wearing animal print lately? I know I just mentally scanned my closet, phew I’m good.
In my opinion we are hearing more about older women with younger men because people in general have become more accepting and desensitized with just about everything in life. Women are financially independent and are looking for fun with no complications or expectations. Not to say that dating a younger man doesn’t come with complications.
Types of cougars
First off, we must understand that there are certain types of cougars.
Cougar Type 1- The type of cougar that hooks up with young athletic-types (think Susan Sarandon in Bull Durham). She may settle for a less physical, more suave catch, but the point is, she thinks like a man in that she's looking for the hottest-looking guy she can get -- the female equivalent of a guy meeting the Swedish bikini team.
Cougar Type 2- The confused cougar that looks for easy sex, but really seeks a relationship man. She'll tart herself up and come on strong, but right around the time things start to get intimate -- either shortly before or after you know her in the biblical sense -- she reveals herself to be a seeker.
Tread carefully and don't get caught with type No. 2.
how to spot a cougar
* She dresses quite suggestively, often younger than her age -- she wants desperately not to look middle-aged.
* Her clothes will generally be tight or low-cut -- anything to make a guy notice her. From afar she might look like a young hottie, which gets guys to approach. Get close, see the wrinkles and makeup, and her true age becomes apparent -- but by that time she's already being flirtatious and has lured you into her lair.
* She'll often be a smoker (cigarettes are a sexy prop, and "got a light?" is a good approach) who dies her hair (blonde is most popular) and dolls herself up (seems to be sponsored by Revlon).
* They often hang out in groups, acting as wingwomen for each other. On the other hand, given their considerable experience and resulting confidence, they will not wait for their friends to hit the bars. Logistically, it's easier for an easily picked-up woman to fly solo.
Her behavior is much more forward...