If She Wants a Break

In some relationships one of the partners will suddenly decide they need a break from the other person. No one is exactly sure what this means but in most cases it means the partners who requested the break wants to date other people. If you are a man who has a girlfriend who recently said this to you, you may be sitting at home thinking of every worse case scenario possible. Your thoughts will run thru the entire series including which man she is spending her time with and what they are doing. If you aren't ready to hand her over to another man, there are ways to get your girlfriend back in your life.

One thing that many men face when their girlfriend decides to take a break is that they don't get themselves into that same mindset. Instead of using the time to explore other dating experiences, they sit at home waiting for their girlfriend to call with her decision. In essence, the man is putting his entire life on hold while his girlfriend goes out and has as much fun as she likes. One of the most effective ways to get your girlfriend back if she wants to date other people is to do the same. She'll will hear of what you are doing and if she has any feelings for you at all, it will drive her crazy.

If your girlfriend has already started seeing someone else, don't take it upon yourself to point out all of his flaws to her. Do not make negative comments about him because this will result in her thinking you are jealous. If she does bring him up when talking to you, and she likely will, tell her that he sounds great. End the call quickly by telling her that you've got plans and that you hope to talk soon. Treat her as you would any friend. It's very important when you are looking for ways to get your girlfriend back, to try and view her as a friend. If you can't do it, at least learn to treat her as such. This is your first action in eventually getting her back.

A very large and common mistake that men make when they are looking for ways to get their relationship back to the way it once was, is to make themselves completely available to their ex girlfriend. This means that when she calls, he jumps. If she calls telling him she wants to talk, he'll rush right over. If she calls him because she's lonely, he'll be the one who comforts her. Putting yourself in this position is a huge mistake. If you do this, your girlfriend will take you for granted. She'll view you as someone who will wait for her, no matter what she does. You need to show her that you are not that person. Don't run to her. Let her be the one who comes to you. To do that you need to make yourself scarce and keep yourself as busy as possible. She needs to see that you have a full and enriching life without her.

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